In this article, I will cover frequent aspects in the birth charts of late virgins and late bloomers in love. And what you can do to finally blossom and attract lasting intimacy.
1. Venus-Saturn aspects (conjunction, square, opposition)
These aspects often indicate inhibitions, fears, or reservations in love. The person longs for a relationship but has unconscious fears of rejection or feels unlovable.
Consequence: Relationships are delayed or taken very seriously, which can lead to a late entry into the romantic or sexual world.
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2. Venus in Virgo
Venus in Virgo can be critical, perfectionist, or shy in matters of the heart. The person loves deeply, but often quietly—with a tendency to only open up when “everything is right.”
Consequence: This can lead to a very cautious, delayed approach to romance and sexuality.
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3. Opposition Venus–Mars (especially Virgo–Pisces or other “weak” signs)
Venus represents love, Mars represents desire. An opposition can indicate an inner conflict between love and lust – e.g., the feeling that one must choose between a deep connection or physical desire.
Consequence: Difficulties in opening up sexually and emotionally at the same time – can lead to inner ambivalence or blockage. I personally know someone with this placement who had no issue with „buying love“, but when it came to being intimate with someone they cared about, there was a huge blockage.
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4. Saturn in the 5th or 7th house
Saturn brings testing, slowing down, and responsibility to the house in which it is located.
In the 5th house (sex, dating, pleasure): inhibitions in spontaneous passion or difficulties relaxing.
In the 7th house (partnership): Partnerships are taken very seriously, but it often takes years to commit.
Consequence: tendency to start relationships late or to be single for a long time.
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5. Lilith or Chiron in conjunction with Venus or in the 5th/7th/8th house
These can indicate injuries, shame, or trauma related to sexuality or relationships.
• Chiron = wound and healing.
• Lilith = primal feminine power, but also rejection and taboo.
Consequence: insecurity, guilt, or fear of opening up sexually.
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6. Pluto aspecting Venus or Mars
Pluto brings depth, but also control, fear of losing power, or obsessive behavior.
Consequence: intensity in relationships can be frightening—some people withdraw or experience extreme delays before they can truly give themselves over.
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Honorable Mentions:
• Venus in the 12th house: Love is often kept secret, repressed, or associated with guilt/renunciation.
• Strong Virgo, Capricorn, or Saturn emphasis in general. Capricorn individuals in particular are often very rational rather than emotional.
• Chiron in the 8th house: Painful or suppressed sexuality. Can indicate sexual abuse.
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Important Note:
Astrology describes tendencies and inner dynamics, not fixed destinies. Many of these aspects can also enable very mature, conscious, and deep relationships—sometimes it just takes more time to feel secure in yourself.
If you like, you can give me your birth details (date, time, place), and we can look at how you can bring intimacy and love into your life in a coaching session.
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Lots of love, Frauke ♥
